This Holidays

Writen by Ruth Houston

Office parties can be breeding grounds for workplace affairs. That's one reason why you should attend the company Christmas party at your husband's or boyfriend's job. Being there can act as a deterrent to office affairs.

Short-Circuit an Office Affair

Several studies show that the workplace is the #1 place for cheating husbands to find someone with whom to have an affair. A recent survey by a private investigation firm revealed that of all of the times for a wayward husband to begin a workplace affair, the annual office holiday party is when it's most likely to occur. This is prime time for an emotional affair with a co-worker to turn into a sexual affair. If he's had his eye on a someone, or has been secretly admiring her all year, the office party is when he's most likely to make his move. Fortified by a few drinks, he may feel bold enough to make his approach -- especially if you're not there. Attend the party with him and put a damper on his plans.

Keep Predatory Females at Bay

Another reason you should attend the holiday party with him is to make your presence known. Any co-worker who has designs on him, is unlikely to make a play for him with you there. And other female employees are more likely to ignore or rebuff his advances, once they see that he's already attached. Your presence may stop a budding office romance from becoming a full blown affair.

Stamp Out Sex at the Office Party

It's fairly common for employees to sneak away from the office party to have sex. In a recent survey conducted by Men's Health magazine, 44 percent of the men said they'd had an affair with a co-worker at a holiday office party at some point in their life. Alcohol is a major contributing factor. With alcohol flowing freely, one drink too many can lower inhibitions to the danger zone. Infidelity could only be a couple of cocktails away. Your being at the party with him will encourage him to keep his libido in check, and prevent him from doing something he'll later regret.

If you Suspect a Workplace Affair

What if you have a nagging suspicion that he's already having an affair with someone one at work? The office party is one of the best chances you'll have to find out if what you suspect is true. By watching him interact with female co-workers, you'll be able to tell if he's carrying on a workplace affair. You should even be able to pick out who he's involved with by the way he behaves in her presence and by how she acts around him. If you know what to look for, their body language and behavior toward each other will easily give them away. If you're not sure what to look for, send for the FREE tip sheet entitled "What to Look for at the Office Party if You Suspect a Workplace Affair." Send an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with "what to look for" in the subject line.

If You Can't Attend His Office Party

What if spouses and significant others aren't allowed to attend? First be sure that's really the case. Sometimes men tell their wives or girlfriends it's an "employees only" party just to make sure they don't attend. If the holiday party is held during business hours, suggest that the two of you meet afterward for dinner or drinks. Knowing you're waiting in the lobby, should discourage him from making out in the parking lot, or sneaking off to a nearby hotel for sex. If he nixes this idea, show up anyway to see who he leaves the party with. If the party takes place after work at another location, and you aren't allowed to attend, offer to meet him beforehand for drinks. Then go with him to the location, and kiss him goodbye at the door. Hopefully that'll be enough to keep him in check.

About Ruth Houston:

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the author of "Is He Cheating on You?– 829 Telltale Signs" which covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the signs most women overlook. For more information about the book, cheating men or signs of infidelity, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com To receive a FREE tip sheet entitled "What to Look for at the Office Party if You Suspect a Workplace Affair," send an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with "what to look for" in the subject line.